What To Do Next?
First, know that you deserve better and that this isn’t your fault. If you’re in an emergency, call 911. It can be hard to decide whether to stay or leave. That’s why it may help to start with a call to one of Passages' advocates who can help you with a safety plan and discuss what options you have for your situation. You are in control and we will not pressure you to do something you do not feel safe doing.
Domestic abuse is about controlling someone’s mind and emotions. Being abused can leave you scared and confused. It can be hard for you to see your partner’s actions for what they really are. Usually, physical abuse isn’t what comes first. The abuse can creep up slowly. A putdown here or there. An odd excuse to keep you away from family or friends. The violence often escalates once you’ve been cut off from other people. By then, you feel trapped.
If you’re afraid of your partner, that’s a big red flag. You may be scared to say what you think, to bring up certain topics, or to say no to sex. No matter the reason, fear has no place in a healthy relationship.
For free, confidential, non-judgmental help; call Passages 24/7 at 800-236-4325.